The Dinner Debate

If money were no object, most of us would have elaborate affairs with all of our hearts’ desires. But, alas, many of us must compromise. While I find some things worth saving on, I find others to be non-negotiable. I am speaking about the importance of the served dinner and the appalling lack of elegance of a buffet.

No matter how experienced your caterer, by the time the last table reaches the line, some food will be cold and some will be gone. How disappointing for guests–who have taken time out of their lives, dressed in their best attire, shared in the most important moment in your life and brought you an expensive gift–at the end, to not even get a hot meal?

Meanwhile, the head table and all of the most important guests are already finishing their delicious feasts.

This brings me to my second reason–the emotional reason. A buffet inadvertently sets up a hierarchy among the guests. It makes one wonder, if you are placed at one of the last few tables, why you were invited in at all. Your guests should never feel like second-class citizens. But the process is demeaning–not to mention disruptive to conversation–even to the first few tables. Dressed to the nines, guests should feel as though they are experiencing a night of luxury. They shouldn’t be required to leave their seats, stand in line, have their plates unattractively piled with food only to walk precariously back to their seats to eat alone while they wait for their companions. It brings to mind the horror of the school cafeteria–not an image one desires during a grand affair.

I urge couples out there to please think of your guests. Show your appreciation by allowing them to relax and stay seated. Let them be served. Yes, it is more expensive to have a fleet of waiters personally bring everyone their dinner. But why should they be asked to work for their meal–and bear the wedding guest food-chain–so you can save some dollars?

If a couple finds it more important to serve pheasant and lobster than to ensure the comfort of their guests, perhaps it is time to rethink priorities. One might be surprised at how deliciously and sumptuously chicken can be prepared. Perhaps cut down your guest list, if you’re really worried about the budget. I always prefer a small, intimate wedding where every guest is accommodated than a large affair where one feels lost in a sea of anonymous faces–and is treated as such. I guarantee your guests will not remember what they ate, but they will remember how they felt.

Any thoughts?

Carla Gonzalez-Hart

(photo credit: iandoh)

April 13th, 2009 by admin | Posted in Wedding Planning | (0)