Choosing Bridesmaids or Wedding Attendants

By david.nathan.cox

After you become engaged, one of the earliest decisions you’ll make concerns who you’ll ask to be bridesmaids or wedding attendants. Usually, being selected to join the bride and groom as they recite their vows is seen as an honor bestowed upon special family members and close friends. This is a decision you’ll want to take seriously because your choices can impact your future relationships with people.

Try not to allow others to choose your attendants for you. Ideally, the people you decide to stand up with you on your wedding day should be close to you and your future husband. You should not base your decision on other friend’s or family member’s desires. Believe it or not, some people have been coerced into including people in their wedding party whom they would not have included otherwise. Yet, with that said, I highly recommend including family members in your wedding party.

Some people expect to be included in your wedding party and will be offended if you don’t ask them to be in your wedding. Many relationships have been strained or severed because a bride-to-be didn’t ask a college friend, for instance, to join her. Sometimes you will not know about these hurt feelings until the wedding is over, and you don’t hear from your friend anymore or your friend seems distant.

Ultimately, your wedding day should be a joyous day for you and your husband. You want to be able to look back at this day without regrets, so select bridesmaids and wedding attendants whom you’ll be able to say, “I’m glad they were by my side on my wedding day.”

June 29th, 2009 by Yolanda D. Young | Posted in Ceremony and Vows, Tips, Wedding Planning | (1)